During this time of thanksgiving, think about practicing gratitude and forgiveness. Perhaps you have a friend or family member that you haven’t spoken to for a while or you’re holding a grudge against someone you once loved. Now is the time to forgive.
Holding onto resentment, grudges, and anger is not only bad for your mental health, but it’s also bad for your physical health. It can cause stress, high blood pressure, and anxiety, to name a few. It’s time to break through the oppressive chains and forgive others and yourself, if necessary. Life is entirely too short and precious to harbor animosity towards other individuals and to hold onto guilt. I guarantee you, no one on their deathbed said, “I wish I was ticked off at more people,” or, “I wish I felt guiltier about my decisions in life.”
As a leader, are you practicing forgiveness with your employees? Are you forgiving yourself when plans don’t work out? Do you gravitate towards empathy and understanding or are you jumping to negative assumptions?
Remember, your employees need to feel valued, safe, and vulnerable enough to make mistakes without immediate negative repercussions. This will give them a better sense of belonging and buy-in.
Action Steps to forgiveness and freeing yourself from the chains of resentment:
- Choose to move on. Yes, it’s a choice. It doesn’t mean that the situation doesn’t hurt, but letting it affect your mental and physical health long-term isn’t worth it.
- Attempt to understand where the other person came from. Have a conversation. Practice an open heart, empathy, and eye contact. Put everything else aside and give them the benefit of the doubt.
- Remember that we are imperfect humans. Every great leader in history made mistakes in some capacity. No one is perfect. Look for the good in others and let everything else go. You can’t control another human being.
- Let go of your own self-guilt. Find a way to forgive yourself and make the most out of your decisions.
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